I don’t know about you, but cooking and eating are two of my favorite things. I love trying all sorts of dishes and food combinations. Growing up, I’ve always had dinner with my family, no matter what. However, I recently found out that not many families do. But there are a lot of benefits that come from eating and cooking together.

Commensality is defined as the act of “eating at the same table.” Since ancient times, people have been eating together. There are two types of commensality: everyday commensality — a private and domestic action — and exceptional commensality — an action that takes place in a more open space. However, since many people work longer hours nowadays and many adults have moved to other cities or countries, it’s harder to find the time to eat together.

 

The benefits of eating together

Eating together can have positive effects on one’s health. A study conducted in London described three different food sharing initiatives.

The Skip Garden and Kitchen is a food growing space and a vegetarian café. It offers programs concerning seasonality and diverse culinary traditions, as well as programs for children where they can play football, eat, and cook together. Moreover, thanks to the initiative “Lunch and Learning,” employees from different local businesses teach kids how to cook and then share a meal with them. The best part is that all these initiatives are free of charge, meaning that everyone can go there and learn a new skill.

Be Enriched is a charity that runs three communal kitchens and serves free vegetarian meals to an average of 175 guests. Older people go there more frequently, but the tables are occupied by people from all walks of life and ethnicities.

The Community Shop is a charity that provides surplus food to residents who pay for it at a discount price. It can help people who have a low income eat a decent meal on a weekly basis, as well as help people form new and stronger relationships.

To create a sense of security and inclusion, food preparation occurs in the kitchen, which is visible to everyone. Even though the kitchen and the dining room are separated, everyone can go in one room or the other and talk to the staff, who are always willing to have a chat with people and teach new cooking and baking skills.

The reasons why people decide to go to places where they can have a meal with other people can be found in the profound sense of isolation these people feel. In 2015, London was described as the loneliest city in the UK. Almost all the people who were interviewed for the study highlighted that they wanted to engage in social activities because they felt lonely. This feeling emerged from the living conditions of people (sharing the apartment with strangers was regarded as one of the reasons why people decided to eat alone in their bedroom) and from the limited space they had in the kitchen. Moreover, for many parents, going to a place where you can eat together with other people is a great way to take the children out of the house. As highlighted by Dunbar in an article about social eating, being able to share a meal with someone else is a great way to form and strengthen relationships and friendships, which is fundamental to one’s wellbeing and happiness.

 

Family meals

study investigated how many meals families were able to eat together during the week, when both parents worked. Despite parents stating that family meals were very important to catch up and socialize with their children, only less than a third of them managed to eat most of their meals together; when that happened, it was mainly with the mother. The reason why that happened was because, most of the time, the parents’ schedules didn’t match, and children are usually fed early in the evening, way before both parents are able to come back home.

 

Home cooking

Eating food requires preparation. Since we’ve highlighted the benefits of eating together, it’s only fair that we look at the benefits of cooking together. Many families can’t prepare their children’s food every day of the week and may turn to take out, a more convenient but unhealthy option. This can have incredibly bad outcomes for the children’s health. In fact, a study conducted on Japanese children highlighted that low frequency of home cooked meals was a predictor of child obesity.

There have been many studies that have highlighted the health benefits of home cooking, proving, for example, that the more people cooked at home, the more likely they were to meet their weekly intake of fruits, vegetables, and calcium. The families interviewed reported that home cooking had many advantages, such as:

Control.

Home cooking can help parents remove “questionable ingredients” from their children’s meal as well as sneaking healthy food in the dishes. Moreover, it helps them reduce the amount of junk food their children ate, resulting in an overall better health.

Self-reliance.

Many families have tight budgets and meal prepping is a great way to prepare larger quantities of fresh food with less money.

Connection.

When people cook together, they have to think about the other family members’ needs and food preferences. This can lead to the establishment of a closer connection to one another.

Traditions.

Home cooking enables families to pass on culinary traditions and/or break away from them. For example, one of the women interviewed in the study said that she grew up in a family with very bad eating habits, but she was able to distance herself from it and find a better lifestyle to pass onto her children and grandchildren.

Independence.

The ability to cook was regarded by teens as a fundamental skill to have for when they move out and go to college. 

Regardless of what families may think the benefits of cooking together are, not many families are able to do so. A study conducted on Canadian families aimed at increasing the number of home-cooked family meals they had during the week. The families were provided recipes, ingredients, and materials to cook 5 family meals each week for 8 weeks. At the end of the two months many of them were happy with how things went during the study. The main benefits of having recipes to follow each week were mainly linked to the quality of food — being able to eat healthier and include more fruits and vegetables in the diet. However, the benefits also included other aspects: many of the families stated that they felt happier and closer to their families because of the time they spent cooking and eating together.

The mental benefits of cooking together

Cooking with other people, even if they’re not your family, can have incredible benefits on your mental health, too. A study conducted on a group of older people who lived in a nursing home investigated the effects of cooking sessions. Many of the people who live in a nursing home suffer from depression, a mental health disorder that increases the longer they stay in the facility. The reasons why older people develop depression are mainly linked to the lack of personal autonomy, defined as the ability to “freely choose behaviors and courses of action for oneself in order to meet one’s needs and goals.” Having the chance to choose what to eat, when to eat, and with whom to eat is very important for personal autonomy, but people in nursing facilities have little power over these factors. For this reason, the study focused on providing these people with six weeks of cooking-based activities. Cooking together made the participants feel more comfortable because it made the nursing facility feel like home. At the end of the study, the participants experienced an improvement in their mental health and quality of life thanks to the ability to interact with more people and feel part of a group.

As we’ve seen throughout the article, eating and cooking together can help you lead a healthier and happier life. Choosing to spend the thirty minutes before eating with your family or friends, helping them cook dinner while talking to each other about your day, can help you form stronger ties with them, as well as help you learn new skills.